Thoughts on the ‘you got to love yourself first’ fallacy

Where are you going?
Down the road.
What to do?
To change the world.
Why do you want to change the world?
Because I cannot change alone.

Christopher Logue, from Mixed Rushes, 1974.

You got to love yourself before you love others. “You need to love your heart and who you are as a person before you can share yourself with someone else”. So says the common sense of 21^st century pop psychology.